Reading Time: 6 minutes Many people say that your desire for sex is like a barometer for your general well-being- (i.e. if your desire for sex falls, it could indicate that something isn’t quite right). Very often, that’s around our mental/psychological health and well-being. It’s really easy to underestimate the role our mind plays in …
Mood, mindset and desire
Stress and desire
Reading Time: 5 minutes Stress, or being over-scheduled, is one of the most common reasons for a lack of sex drive. Before we go on, a gentle reminder that it’s important to remember that it’s OK to not want sex. The levels of desire we experience vary- and respond to what is going on …
Body image/confidence​ and desire
Reading Time: 7 minutes Our thoughts and feelings towards our body and desire are intricately linked. Read on for more information about exactly how your relationship to your body shapes desire- and some tips and ideas for what to do if your confidence is low…. Â How to increase body confidence and revive sexual …
The BEST EVER guide on how to stay present during sex
Reading Time: < 1 minute Is that a crack in the ceiling? Damn, I forgot milk. Did that noise just come from me?! In a study of 40 years of research on women with low desire, it was found that: “negative thoughts play a key role in women’s sexual dysfunction: They distract women from erotic stimulation, produce anxiety and …
#13 tips on how to lose control during sex (for people who struggle to let go)
Reading Time: 8 minutes “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. About having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can be …
The dark side of desire: why we should be cautious telling women with a low libido to schedule in sex.
Reading Time: 5 minutes From my experiences, scheduling sex isn’t always the best advice to give to women with a low libido, or women with responsive desire. Here’s why…
No more”star-fishing” in bed- start doing this instead
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. What is a “sexual starfish” Starfishing is a derogatory term for women that are still or unmoving during sex. The Urban Dictionary definition …
8 ways that anxiety closes down desire
Reading Time: 4 minutes Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well …
Exercise: the key to reviving desire?
Reading Time: 3 minutes We know we know. There’s health benefits. Its good for us. We’ll get a bikini body. Minimize cellulite and live a longer life… It’s all well and good having that knowledge, but actually exercising and getting out there to do it, well… for some of us, that’s easier said that …
How does stress impact on desire?
Reading Time: 3 minutes Stress is like a ninja. You know the feeling. One minute you’re coping, bossing at life, merrily bumbling along. The next you’re tits deep in unread emails, missed calls, a full laundry basket, copious social plans and an empty bank account three days after pay day. Stress interrupts when you …