Reading Time: 6 minutes Is that a crack in the ceiling? Damn, I forgot milk. What the hell did Karen from HR mean when she said I can’t pull off a jumpsuit?! Loud thoughts that distract us whilst having sex are the worst. In a study of 40 years of research on women with …
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Mood, mindset and desire
#13 tips on how to lose control during sex (for people who struggle to let go)
Reading Time: 3 minutes It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 10 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and …
The dark side of desire: why we should be cautious telling women with a low libido to schedule in sex.
Reading Time: 5 minutes From my experiences, scheduling sex isn’t always the best advice to give to women with a low libido, or women with responsive desire. Here’s why…
No more”star-fishing” in bed- start doing this instead
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. What is a “sexual starfish” Starfishing is a derogatory term for women that are still or unmoving during sex. The Urban Dictionary definition …
8 ways that anxiety closes down desire
Reading Time: 3 minutes Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well …
Here’s why you can’t allow yourself to be vunerable in bed
Reading Time: 3 minutes “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. It’s about having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can …
Exercise: the key to reviving desire?
Reading Time: 3 minutes We know we know. There’s health benefits. Its good for us. We’ll get a bikini body. Minimize cellulite and live a longer life… It’s all well and good having that knowledge, but actually exercising and getting out there to do it, well… for some of us, that’s easier said that …
How does stress impact on desire?
Reading Time: 3 minutes Stress is like a ninja. You know the feeling. One minute you’re coping, bossing at life, merrily bumbling along. The next you’re tits deep in unread emails, missed calls, a full laundry basket, copious social plans and an empty bank account three days after pay day. Stress interrupts when you …
The major warning sign that you’ve become “too busy” for sex
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you live life on autopilot- rushing around, always crazy busy, and rarely stopping to breathe? Is sex the last thing you need to tick off on an already long to-do list at the end of each day? Do you end up exhausted, flopping into bed and trying to get …