Reading Time: 14 minutes It seems obvious saying it out loud, but one of THE most common reasons for women losing their sex drive is that the sex they are (or were) having isn’t satisfying.
Below, we’ll share with you some insights into WHY the sex you are (or were) having is shutting down your desire to do it again, and some tips and tools for how to boost your appetite. It’s quite a long post, so grab a cuppa and dive in!
Reading Time: < 1 minute Is that a crack in the ceiling? Damn, I forgot milk. Did that noise just come from me?! In a study of 40 years of research on women with low desire, it was found that: “negative thoughts play a key role in women’s sexual dysfunction: They distract women from erotic stimulation, produce anxiety and …
Reading Time: 2 minutes Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …
Reading Time: 6 minutes If you’ve been having sex with the same person for a while and its become a bit samey, it’s normal for your desire for sex to plummet. It’s often not that our desire for sex has gone, but it’s just the desire to have sex with the same person over …
Reading Time: 8 minutes “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. About having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can be …
Reading Time: 5 minutes From my experiences, scheduling sex isn’t always the best advice to give to women with a low libido, or women with responsive desire. Here’s why…
Reading Time: 3 minutes “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” ― Isabel Allende, Of Love and Shadows For the benefit of the people at the back I present to you exhibit A in the case of the …
Reading Time: 4 minutes If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. Up until now, sex has either meant rejecting your partner, or giving in to sex that you may not really want to keep them happy. So we start to avoid situations where we …
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. What is a “sexual starfish” Starfishing is a derogatory term for women that are still or unmoving during sex. The Urban Dictionary definition …
Reading Time: 2 minutes When was the last time you kissed your partner? I mean a full on, passionate snog like there’s no tomorrow? I’ll wager that it’s not recently, or frequency. Do you remember the last time you kissed just for kissings sake? To explore each other, to caress, for pleasure. I’ll be …
Reading Time: 3 minutes Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. This is what is known as “responsive desire”- which essentially means that you might find that quite often you lack desire for sex until AFTER you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching etc. If that’s …
