Reading Time: 6 minutes Is that a crack in the ceiling? Damn, I forgot milk. What the hell did Karen from HR mean when she said I can’t pull off a jumpsuit?! Loud thoughts that distract us whilst having sex are the worst. In a study of 40 years of research on women with …
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How to put in sexual boundaries when you don’t know what yours are and it feels terrifying to ask for what you want
Reading Time: 4 minutes A MAJOR part of my journey to find my sex drive was dealing with resentment. There’s a post all about it here, but safe to say my partner used to piss me off all the time and I’d simmer away in the background spending time coming up with mad plots …
Do you give away your power during sex? Here’s how to get it back
Reading Time: 6 minutes “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” – Oscar Wilde When you’ve lost your libido, sex can feel a completely disempowering experience. Far from the sexually empowered femme fatales we see in films, flicking their hair and calling the shots, instead we’re scurrying to bed …
Try a “pussy massage” when you want to connect but don’t feel like sex….
Reading Time: 2 minutes Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …
#9 unconventional ways to mix things up in bed if you’re a bit bored
Reading Time: 5 minutes If you’ve been having sex with the same person for a while and its become a bit samey, our desire for sex can plummet. It’s often not that our desire for sex has gone, but it’s just the desire to have sex with the same person over and over that’s …
#13 tips on how to lose control during sex (for people who struggle to let go)
Reading Time: 3 minutes It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 10 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and …
What’s stopping you from speaking out in bed?
Reading Time: 2 minutes If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like/ feels good for us in bed, AKA asking for what we …
The dark side of desire: why we should be cautious telling women with a low libido to schedule in sex.
Reading Time: 5 minutes From my experiences, scheduling sex isn’t always the best advice to give to women with a low libido, or women with responsive desire. Here’s why…
Here’s why seduction is key to a better sex drive….
Reading Time: 3 minutes “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” ― Isabel Allende, Of Love and Shadows For the benefit of the people at the back I present to you exhibit A in the case of the …
Could a “sex ban” improve your sex drive?
Reading Time: 4 minutes If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. Up until now, sex has either meant rejecting your partner, or giving in to sex that you may not really want to keep them happy. So we start to avoid situations where we …
No more”star-fishing” in bed- start doing this instead
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. The Urban Dictionary definition states that a Starfish is: A female sexual partner who remains ‘unmoved’ during lovemaking, physically non-responsive (like a ….). OR, even …
A snog everyday keeps the (sex) doctor away
Reading Time: 2 minutes When was the last time you kissed your partner? I mean a full on, passionate snog like there’s no tomorrow? I’ll wager that it’s not recently, or frequency. Do you remember the last time you kissed just for kissings sake? To explore each other, to caress, for pleasure. I’ll be …
Here’s why you can’t allow yourself to be vunerable in bed
Reading Time: 3 minutes “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. It’s about having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can …
Six tips to get turned on quickly if you’re struggling in the moment
Reading Time: 3 minutes Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. This is what is known as “responsive desire”- which essentially means that you might find that quite often you lack desire for sex until AFTER you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching etc. (There’s a more …