Reading Time: 6 minutes Many people say that your desire for sex is like a barometer for your general well-being- (i.e. if your desire for sex falls, it could indicate that something isn’t quite right). Very often, that’s around our mental/psychological health and well-being. It’s really easy to underestimate the role our mind plays in …
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Stress and desire
Reading Time: 5 minutes Stress, or being over-scheduled, is one of the most common reasons for a lack of sex drive. Before we go on, a gentle reminder that it’s important to remember that it’s OK to not want sex. The levels of desire we experience vary- and respond to what is going on …
The 6 factors causing your low sex drive (and what to do about them!)
Reading Time: 4 minutes “What stands in the way becomes the way” -Marcus Aurelius
From our research we believe there are six universal factors that shape our levels of desire…
Vulva-voom! Increase your desire by understanding your sexual accelerators and brakes…
Reading Time: 3 minutes Emily Nagoski (a fantastic scientist and feminist) came up with a framework for how sexual desire works in her book “Come As You Are: the surprising science that will transform your sex life” (*affiliate link*). In it, she talks about the “Dual Control Model” Instead of our sex drives being in …
Here’s why the sex you are (or were) having is the cause of your low sex drive. And what to do about it!
Reading Time: 14 minutes It seems obvious saying it out loud, but one of THE most common reasons for women losing their sex drive is that the sex they are (or were) having isn’t satisfying.
Below, we’ll share with you some insights into WHY the sex you are (or were) having is shutting down your desire to do it again, and some tips and tools for how to boost your appetite. It’s quite a long post, so grab a cuppa and dive in!
The 5 factors in your relationship shutting down your levels of desire (and how to resolve them)…
Reading Time: 13 minutes For many women, their desire doesn’t exist within a vacuum and how they feel about their partner governs how much they might like to have sex with them.
There are five main things to look out for in relationships which can negatively impact on desire. We’ll walk you through each one in this post and give you some ideas on how to resolve them…
How a disconnect from your sexual self impacts on desire (and our top secret for how to reconnect!)
Reading Time: 5 minutes There are many things that can close down a woman’s sex drive, but one of the MOST common factors (but not often spoken about) is because there is a barrier to her accessing and expressing her sexual self. This might feel like not only low (or no) desire for sex with a …
Body image/confidence​ and desire
Reading Time: 7 minutes Our thoughts and feelings towards our body and desire are intricately linked. Read on for more information about exactly how your relationship to your body shapes desire- and some tips and ideas for what to do if your confidence is low…. Â How to increase body confidence and revive sexual …
Physical health and desire
Reading Time: 8 minutes Your physical health is a major factor in your libido. This can include more everyday factors such as your menstrual cycle, hygiene, nutrition and contraception, or other issues such as health conditions, medication side effects or the result of a recent life change. However, this can be one of the …
How the availability and perception of time impacts on desire (and what to do about it)
Reading Time: 9 minutes Do you live life on autopilot- rushing around, always crazy busy, and rarely stopping to breathe? Is sex the last thing you need to tick off on an already long to-do list at the end of each day? Do you end up exhausted, flopping into bed and trying to get …
#7 things you *need* to know if you’ve lost your sex drive…
Reading Time: 4 minutes This is the essential but explosive guide to desire we wish we’d had when we first started out…
The BEST EVER guide on how to stay present during sex
Reading Time: < 1 minute Is that a crack in the ceiling? Damn, I forgot milk. Did that noise just come from me?! In a study of 40 years of research on women with low desire, it was found that: “negative thoughts play a key role in women’s sexual dysfunction: They distract women from erotic stimulation, produce anxiety and …
Try a “pussy massage” when you want to connect but don’t feel like sex….
Reading Time: 2 minutes Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …
Our wonderful list of non-conventional ways to mix things up in bed if you’re a bit bored
Reading Time: 6 minutes If you’ve been having sex with the same person for a while and its become a bit samey, it’s normal for your desire for sex to plummet. It’s often not that our desire for sex has gone, but it’s just the desire to have sex with the same person over …
Cheat your way to a great sex drive by scheduling in time to *think* about sex
Reading Time: 3 minutes A low libido often means that we can almost completely stop thinking about sex (as well as experience a diminished desire to have it!). And for many of us, these thoughts aren’t suddenly going to fall from the sky, or turn up behind the sofa along with some loose change and …