Reading Time: 3 minutes The things I wish I’d know when my desire first dipped…
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Laura
The BEST EVER guide on how to stay present during sex
Reading Time: < 1 minute Is that a crack in the ceiling? Damn, I forgot milk. Did that noise just come from me?! In a study of 40 years of research on women with low desire, it was found that: “negative thoughts play a key role in women’s sexual dysfunction: They distract women from erotic stimulation, produce anxiety and …
Try a “pussy massage” when you want to connect but don’t feel like sex….
Reading Time: 2 minutes Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …
#13 tips on how to lose control during sex (for people who struggle to let go)
Reading Time: 8 minutes “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. About having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can be …
The dark side of desire: why we should be cautious telling women with a low libido to schedule in sex.
Reading Time: 5 minutes From my experiences, scheduling sex isn’t always the best advice to give to women with a low libido, or women with responsive desire. Here’s why…
How to find out what turns you on, when you have no clue where to start…
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you *really* know what turns you on? If you do know, you’re one step ahead of me. I felt totally vanilla, totally idiotic, totally numb on this part. Because, if you’d have asked me to describe my fantasy or what turns me on to you a few months ago, …
#5 ways belly dancing will fire up your sex drive
Reading Time: 3 minutes Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, …
Have you read this game-changing book about female sexuality?
Reading Time: 3 minutes *Note: this post contains affiliate links, so if you purchase anything you click on I might get a few pennies to say cheers* I came across this book online after my frantic googling of “help, I’m not bothered about sex”, and ordered it from Amazon with the hope that something …
No more”star-fishing” in bed- start doing this instead
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. What is a “sexual starfish” Starfishing is a derogatory term for women that are still or unmoving during sex. The Urban Dictionary definition …
Six tips to get turned on quickly if you’re struggling in the moment
Reading Time: 3 minutes Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. This is what is known as “responsive desire”- which essentially means that you might find that quite often you lack desire for sex until AFTER you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching etc. If that’s …
5 TV shows that’ll give you the fanny gallops
Reading Time: 2 minutes A brilliant way to get sex back on your agenda when you have a low sex drive is to watch a TV show featuring lots of, you guessed it, sex. That’ll revive your vagina in no time, because it’s encouraging you to remember sex- to keep it on your radar, …
7 ways to reframe sex so it becomes essential to your everyday wellbeing…
Reading Time: 5 minutes Lets be honest. Sometimes sex feels like a chore. Its late… the dogs watching… it feels like a lot of effort… you just want to go to sleep. It’s easy for it to fall to the bottom of your to-do list, or as the final activity left to complete at the …
How to practise sexual self care
Reading Time: 6 minutes As it’s #selfcare week, here is a cordial reminder of the importance of sexual self care. No you dirty bugger- it’s not just about wanking (although, that is kinda part of it). Sexual self care is about all increasing your wellness. And specifically your sexual wellness. They say…. It makes …