Reading Time: 4 minutes If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. Up until now, sex has either meant rejecting your partner, or giving in to sex that you may not really want to keep them happy. So we start to avoid situations where we …
Have you read this game-changing book about female sexuality?
Reading Time: 3 minutes *Note: this post contains affiliate links, so if you purchase anything you click on I might get a few pennies to say cheers* I came across this book online after my frantic googling of “help, I’m not bothered about sex”, and ordered it from Amazon with the hope that something …
No more”star-fishing” in bed- start doing this instead
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. The Urban Dictionary definition states that a Starfish is: A female sexual partner who remains ‘unmoved’ during lovemaking, physically non-responsive (like a ….). OR, even …
Do you believe these myths about sex? If so, they could be killing your sex drive
Reading Time: 8 minutes There are some really unhelpful beliefs in society about sex, that might be unwittingly killing your desire. Do you recognize any of them? Myth One: “Sex is about penetration” We all know the drill right? Women need longer than men to get warmed up for sex- say about 20 minutes of …
5 tips on how to talk to your partner about a mismatch in desire
Reading Time: 4 minutes If you’re reading this post, it’s likely that you’ve already communicated with your partner in some way about a mismatch in desire. How did you handle it? Hopefully maturely, sensibly, and with lots of communication. If you’re anything like me, however, it will have gone terribly- crying, silence, denial, anger, …
A snog everyday keeps the (sex) doctor away
Reading Time: 2 minutes When was the last time you kissed your partner? I mean a full on, passionate snog like there’s no tomorrow? I’ll wager that it’s not recently, or frequency. Do you remember the last time you kissed just for kissings sake? To explore each other, to caress, for pleasure. I’ll be …
Here’s why chucking out your old, holey knickers can improve your sex drive!
Reading Time: 3 minutes We’ve all got them. The lurkers at the back of our closets. The last-to-be-picked, laundry day style, whip it out when you’ve got nothing else type of things. I’m talking about bad pants. You know what I mean. The comfort pants. The period pants with suspect stains on them. The …
What does it mean to be “aroused”, and the link between arousal and desire
Reading Time: 4 minutes So, this blog post is on arousal. You might know by now that for some women desire for sex may come *after* arousal (if you didn’t know this, read here). Therefore, knowing what arousal is, and the physical sensations and changes that happen to our bodies, is crucial for understanding more about …
8 ways that anxiety closes down desire
Reading Time: 3 minutes Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well …
Here’s why you can’t allow yourself to be vunerable in bed
Reading Time: 3 minutes “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. It’s about having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can …
Exercise: the key to reviving desire?
Reading Time: 3 minutes We know we know. There’s health benefits. Its good for us. We’ll get a bikini body. Minimize cellulite and live a longer life… It’s all well and good having that knowledge, but actually exercising and getting out there to do it, well… for some of us, that’s easier said that …
Six tips to get turned on quickly if you’re struggling in the moment
Reading Time: 3 minutes Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. This is what is known as “responsive desire”- which essentially means that you might find that quite often you lack desire for sex until AFTER you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching etc. (There’s a more …
How does stress impact on desire?
Reading Time: 3 minutes Stress is like a ninja. You know the feeling. One minute you’re coping, bossing at life, merrily bumbling along. The next you’re tits deep in unread emails, missed calls, a full laundry basket, copious social plans and an empty bank account three days after pay day. Stress interrupts when you …
5 TV shows that’ll give you the fanny gallops
Reading Time: 2 minutes A brilliant way to get sex back on your agenda when you have a low sex drive is to watch a TV show featuring lots of, you guessed it, sex. That’ll revive your vagina in no time, because it’s encouraging you to remember sex- to keep it on your radar, …
The major warning sign that you’ve become “too busy” for sex
Reading Time: 3 minutes Do you live life on autopilot- rushing around, always crazy busy, and rarely stopping to breathe? Is sex the last thing you need to tick off on an already long to-do list at the end of each day? Do you end up exhausted, flopping into bed and trying to get …