Welcome to Desired State. 

If you’ve lost interest in sex and don’t know why- or what to do about it…

If you’re worried that there’s something wrong with you because you’re not experiencing sexual desire…

If this is all taking a toll on your relationship and sex life…

…This site is for you 


New here?

Begin with our guide to "the 7 things you need to know if you've lost your sex drive."

About Us

We got fed up of hearing the same old story about women in long term relationships whose desire for sex fades- and then thinks there’s something wrong with her. 

So, we’re here to change it!

Take a look at our mission to find out more.

Looking to get your sex drive back?

Visit our Night School- we've got tons of resources that can help.

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Check out the best and most comprehensive list of resources on desire to ever exist! Discover our favourite TED talks, books, apps, films, podcasts and more to help expand your knowledge and deepen your understanding of female sexuality.